What is sex?
WHAT IS SEX?
Generally, a pleasure gained by physical relationship is called coition. Equal sexual pleasure should be achieved necessarily by both man and woman during sexual intercourse. A man gets orgasm as he discharges while making sexual relationship and sexual intercourse is considered complete by the man after ejaculation. A man can ejaculate within one minute or ten minutes too. In this way, man gets orgasm through sexual intercourse. On the contrary, paying attention towards the sexual pleasure of a woman is also essential. If a woman does not get sexual pleasure, it is not called coition at any rate.
A man quite unknown to this fact makes sexual relation with a woman and he pays no attention towards her sexual pleasure. It should be considered only voluptuousness. Knowing about it is impossible without understanding the reality of coition. A man adopts voluptuousness instead of coition after marriage. It clears that man becomes passive towards the fact whether sexual pleasure is gained by his wife or not. Real meaning of coition should be known properly. A man should not consider a woman the source of joy and pleasure but he should try to give real sexual pleasure to the woman too. Sexual pleasure should be shared by both husband and wife equally. It is coition in real sense.
When young boy and young girl marry after knowing the goal of marriage, they are familiar about the fact that coition will be the result of their love activities. Each educated boy and girl knows that coition is an essential part of married life. If a girl asks her friend about sex, she gives no answer or she says that she has no need to her to know about coition. She says that sexual intercourse is done by a man not woman. According to such kind of girl, only man should be aware about sexual intercourse.
A young boy only smiles on such kinds of questions. He says that everybody knows how to make sexual relation. There is no need to ask such kinds of question according to him.
Condition of the beginning of sexual intercourse:-
When a woman is ready to make sexual relation because of different kinds of foreplays and a kind of secretion may exude from the vagina and penis of the man, coition should be started by inserting penis into the vagina. It is right to some extant. Coital movements, which have aroused a woman, should not be stopped after inserting the penis into the vagina. It is right that there is no place of coital movements in different kinds of techniques of sexual intercourse but such techniques are a few. Such kinds of movement should be continued as much as they are possible after inserting the penis into the vagina.
If kissing is not possible in any technique of sexual intercourse, a man keeps on rubbing the breast of the woman. If breast is out of reach, he should keep on kissing on the breast of the woman. Here it means to say that coital movement should keep on continue while making sexual intercourse. This thing enhances the sexual vigor, enjoyment and zest of a woman to some extant.
Foreplay is an essential subject:-
People, who stop the activities of foreplay after the beginning of coition, consider coition and foreplay two different things. They think that activities of foreplay end as the sexual intercourse starts. This belief is quiet wrong but both foreplay and coition cannot be differentiate at any rate. If activities of foreplay are stopped, a sequence in which the woman is taking part with zest breaks all of sudden.
One thing should be remembered always that there are two goals of foreplay. First is to get pleasure and second one is the arousing to each other for sexual intercourse by man and woman. If we observe this thing minutely, one thing becomes clear that stopping to the activities of for play will be the cause of irritation of woman. Here it means to say that a woman will become irritated if the activities of foreplay are stopped. Imagine a scene as it mentioned above.
A man is kissing to the breast of a woman by taking her into his arms. He rubs to the beautiful breast and touches to the nipples of the breast occasionally. It is natural that this activity will arouse a woman for sexual excitement. The woman grips the hands of man on her breast. It means that she wants that the man rub to the breast forcibly because she wants more and more joy. A man considers it another way and thinks that woman is fully excited now. Thereafter, he involves in sexual intercourse and inserts his penis into the vagina of woman.
The woman gets great despair with such kind of behavior of man. She has no objection to the penetration of penis into the vagina but she wants to make rub her breast. She was getting great joy when the man was rubbing her breast. When the man stops to rub the breast of the woman, this thing annoyed to the woman badly. Hence, one thing is essential that activities of foreplay should not be stopped during sexual intercourse. An obstruction in foreplay works like a poison during sexual intercourse.
All the persons know that both man and woman are equally responsible in sexual intercourse. Several men think that a man plays an effective role during sexual intercourse and a woman only bears. This fact is not just. A woman has been made in a way that she never becomes passive during sexual intercourse. Several European girls admitted this fact that they felt strange kind of sensation in their vagina when their breast was touched first time by men. They wanted to make rubbing their vagina at that time.
Some women want to play a passive role knowingly while making sexual relation. They should show the symptoms of sexual pleasure when their husbands kiss, press and fondle their breast. They do not show such kinds of symptoms with a fear. They think so if they will show such symptoms of sexual pleasure, they will be proved wrong by their husband. Such kinds of women should give up this kind of thinking from the mind.
They should remember a thing that the real joy of sexual intercourse can be got only when the penis remains in movement continuously. This movement belongs to the activities of penis. In this stage, the penis becomes hard and erection and comes into the contact of soft walls and labia minora and labia majora of the vagina. Consequently, excessive contraction comes into the fibres of the penis and this contraction ends with the ejaculation of semen.
Several men think that they will become the victim of early ejaculation with the penetration of penis into the vagina. Due to this doubt, they make sexual relation hurriedly after inserting the penis into the vagina and consequently become the victim of early ejaculation. To get the real joy of sex, a man should not start the process of stroking just after inserting the penis into the vagina but he should keep on continuing the process of foreplay as kissing and pressing of the breast after inserting the penis into the vagina. After sometime, he should start the process of stroking.
If the man feels that ejaculation is near, he should stop the process of stroking and start kissing and pressing of the breast. Both husband and wife will get great sexual pleasure through this kind of sexual pleasure. A woman should contract her vagina as her husband starts the process of stroking. A man will get as much sexual pleasure as she will contract her vagina. This way both will get great sexual pleasure.
In this way, if the process of stroking is adopted by the man haltingly, a woman reaches in a condition of gaining orgasm. At this stage, a woman wishes to ejaculate along with her husband this is the reason that she wants a speed in the process of stroking. A woman should give full support to her husband in the process of stroking. Many women think that the process of stroking is the work of men not women but it is quite wrong.
When genitals of both husband and wife stroke to each other for some time, sexual pleasure of brain becomes too much to bear. At this moment, both husband and wife reach in the condition of climax, which is called orgasm in the medical language. In this stage, the brain indicates to complete the sexual intercourse. Both husband and wife ejaculate. The man ejaculates semen whereas a fluid exudes from the vagina of a woman at the time of ejaculation.
Mostly men think that sexual intercourse becomes complete after the ejaculation of semen. They think that this is the time to sleep because there is no sexual activity now. It is the blunder done by such kinds of men. Coition does not end after ejaculation. Ejaculation of semen indicates that you have gained what a person wanted to get but something is rest. Completion of this rest is very necessary for a man. To understand an example has been given below. Ejaculation means to climb on a rock or mountain but returning from there is also necessary because returning from there is also an art.
A man, who sleeps after ejaculation or starts the preparation for sleeping, does very wrong deed with his wife. A woman can think that her husband cares only about his sexual pleasure and he pays no attention towards her emotions and feelings. A man should not create such kind of situation because it is the duty of a man.
A man should kiss all the sensitive organs of a woman after the ejaculation of semen lovingly if he wants to provide sexual pleasure to his wife. Here it means to say that lovemaking should be done after the ejaculation of semen. This thing will create a respect in the mind of woman for her husband. She will think that her husband does not consider the toy of sexual hunger but he really loves her.
Besides it, a man cools down rapidly after ejaculation of semen but it does not happen with woman. A woman takes too much time in cooling down sexually. Therefore, it is necessary to know that a man should bring a woman in normal position with the help of foreplay. A man should not sleep by taking side in spite of knowing that his wife is in normal condition viz there is no sexual urge in her. He should embrace her until she sinks into the sea of sleeping. A man should sleep when he is definite that his wife has slept.
Classification of sexual intercourse:-
As sexual intercourse has been classified based on the size of the penis and vagina similarly sexual intercourse has been classified based on coital movements. As face of two persons never resemblances and in the same there is difference between the likes and dislikes, physical structure and mental level of a man and a woman, in the same way, sexual urge and coital movements of genitals of both are different to each other.
Several women and men do not bear deep sexual intercourse. They do not like close embracing, kissing and pinching through nails and teeth. Such kinds of men and women are called tender natured persons. They like light sexual intercourse because of their soft and tender nature.
Man and woman with medium sexual urge are called person with medium sexual urge. Neither they are too much salacious nor do they have lack of sexual urge. Such persons also love to sexual intercourse have the knowledge of lovemaking but they are not salacious. They do not adopt aggressiveness during foreplay. Such persons pass their sexual life happily and in a satisfactory. Such persons are proved good for a family.
Sexy women and men have uncontrollable sexual urge. Such persons are salacious and lusty. They want to make sexual relations repeatedly and establish sexual intercourse as they get chance. On high and low sexual urge, men and women have been classified in this way.
Samrat: (equal sexual relations)
1. A man having lack of sexual excitement should make relation with the same excited woman.
2. A man having medium sexual excitement can make relation with the same excited woman.
3. A man having excessive sexual excitement should make relation with the same excited woman.
Vishamrat: (sexual relation between man and woman opposite sexual urge):
1. A man of low sexual urge should make sexual relation with a woman of medium sexual urge.
2. A man of low sexual urge can make sexual relation with a woman of high sexual urge.
3. In this sexual intercourse, a man of medium sexual urge is involved with a woman of low sexual urge.
4. A man of medium sexual urge should make relation with a woman of high sexual urge in sexual intercourse.
5. A man of high sexual urge should make sexual relation with a woman of low sexual urge
6. A man of high sexual urge can make relation with a woman of medium sexual urge in sexual intercourse.
Period of erection of the penis:- Many men have not capacity to make sexual relation for long time. Such men ejaculate within few seconds just after inserting the penis into the vagina. Some men have medium sexual power. Only few persons have a capacity to make sexual relations for long time. Such men, who ejaculate soon, cannot satisfy their wives. Married life of such kinds of men becomes disturbed. Similarly, many women satisfy soon. Some women satisfy after some strokes. Some women satisfy after 10 to 15 minutes of stroking. In this way, sexual intercourse has been classified based on period of ejaculation.
1. A man who ejaculates soon should make sexual relation with a woman who satisfies soon during sexual intercourse.
2. A man having medium sexual power can make relation with a woman who has also medium sexual urge in Sexual intercourse.
3. A man having high sexual power should make sexual relation with a woman who satisfies after long time.
Above-mentioned classification has been divided on the mental physical structure and sexual urge.
A sexual intercourse proves good and successful in which both husband and wife absorbs into each other with one soul and two bodies at the time of orgasm. This is possible only when man posses complete sexual knowledge along with sufficient erection power. Women die on those men who have a power to make sexual relation for long time.
Many men think that women also ejaculate like them. It is wrong belief because it never happens with a woman. There is no ejaculation when a woman gets orgasm like a man during sexual intercourse.
A woman should be aroused properly before making sexual relations. Doing so by a man is essential for the sexual satisfaction of a woman. A man should make sexual aroused a woman by adopting the activities of foreplays. If it is done by a man, the woman will get sexual satisfaction soon just after starting the process of stroking.
Embracing, kissing and pressing of the breast are not enough to arouse a woman. Generally, whole body of the woman is sensitive but there are some such organs in a woman’s body if they were touched, kindled, fondled and kissed by the woman, sexual urge becomes high in a woman. Sensitive organs of a woman have been described below.
A women is excited by touching these body parts as Clitoris (most sensitive), labia minora, labia majora, thighs, naval region, breasts (nipples of the breast), back side of the neck, lips and tongue, lower portion of the ears where ornament is adorned, armpit, back, hips, soft portion of the knees, calves, soles etc.
A woman becomes sexual excited soon if man touches or fondles these body organs with his hands gently and lovingly. The woman embraces her husband because of too much sexual excitement. A man can kiss on such body organs along with rubbing and touching by the hands. If it is done, sexual urge of a woman becomes uncontrollable. In this situation both husband and wife gets excessive sexual pleasure during sexual intercourse. It is not necessary that all the body organs of the woman can be touched by the tongue and lips because it depends on the consent of both husband and wife. Arousing a woman is the only purpose while doing so. This way both husband and wife get great sexual pleasure.
Mental state of a woman never remains same all the time. A man should compel a woman to make sexual relation if she is not prepared for it mentally and physically. A man should make sexual relation with his wife when she is consent for sexual intercourse. Sexual intercourse should be established by a man after arousing a woman properly.
Sexual urge and desire for sexual intercourse:-
It can be that a woman is ready for sexual intercourse physically soon but it is not necessary that she is ready mentally too. To know this thing is a little hard for men. A woman gets more pleasure in the activities of foreplay than the sexual intercourse. She gets great pleasure when a man kisses her, embraces her and plays with her body. Both husband and wife should not make sexual intercourse until they are fully sexually exited.